‘WE DON’T KNOW ANYMORE WHAT WE ARE AS WOMEN OR MEN’

Blog

Part two of my conversation with Gabriele Kuby takes a hard look at the damage inflicted on marriage and family by radical ideologies—and what can be done to turn the tide. Gabriele, an author and social commentator, does not mince words: “We don’t know anymore what we are as women or what we are as men. Thus, the destruction of families”. Her latest book, The Abandoned Generation, examines the long-term consequences of these cultural shifts. You can watch our full discussion here.

Gabriele highlights how the erosion of stable families is an intentional and direct result of radical social policies and ideologies. She warns that the state increasingly undermines motherhood, calling state-sponsored daycare “socialism 2.0”. In Germany, she explains, “Every woman has… a legal right to demand daycare”, forcing local communities to build facilities and pressuring mothers to place their children in institutional care. The result? Children suffering from chronic stress, lacking secure attachments, and growing up more susceptible to manipulation.

Marriage, Gabriele argues, is essential to the stability of individuals and society. She urges young couples to prioritise their vows, saying: “You have to make the decision—I will carry out my marriage, I will be faithful to my marriage partner, I will put my children first.” The so-called “freedom of choice” is a sham, she explains, when families are financially penalised for raising their own children while state institutions are fully funded.

She also speaks plainly about the impact of digital culture, including pornography and social media. “We cannot protect our children from pornography anymore”. She warns that exposure to damaging content is “brutalising” young people today. Gabriele calls for parents to reclaim their authority and create environments where children are raised in strong family settings, not by their peers or the internet.

On divorce, Gabriele does not just cite statistics—she speaks from personal experience. As a child of divorce and later a divorced mother herself, she describes the lasting scars: “For the children, it goes on and on and on… it is a never-ending story.” She challenges couples to resist the cultural narrative of self-fulfilment at all costs, insisting that real joy comes from commitment and sacrifice.

At C4M, we champion the truth that marriage between one man and one woman is not just a personal choice but the foundation of a flourishing society. Gabriele Kuby’s insights underline the urgent need to restore and protect marriage in the face of relentless attacks. We encourage you to watch the full interview and share it with others who care about the future of family life.